Buzzsaw Asks Why… Ithaca hasn’t started a BDSM club yet?

By | March 6th, 2014 | Issues, Magazine, Sawdust, Sex

No matter how much we wish it would, it’s clear that the 50 Shades of Grey fad is going nowhere anytime soon. Especially with the cringe-inducing film version underway for a 2015 release, it begs the question, exactly how obsessed with this bondage fad has our country become? Popular tween store Claire’s even has their own line of 50 Shades themed accessories. If that’s not messed up, I’m not sure what is. One of the other telltale signs is the emergence of several BDSM student organizations popping up across the country.

Harvard (yes Harvard) recently gained attention for their approval of a kink-themed club, Harvard College Munch, and they are far from the first to do so. Schools like University of Minnesota, Tufts, and fellow Ivy League school Columbia University also have their own variations of the club. This begs the important question, since Ithaca College is so concerned with amping up its prestige, shouldn’t we hop on the sex swing and start our own BDSM club? Think about it. We could be just like Harvard. And the puns are limitless. IC Leather, Sex Toy H. Park, Ithaca College S&M Center. Don’t even get me started on what could be done with Dillingham. Something to consider adding to the IC 20/20 plan.?

-Maus

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  • 6 Comments on “Buzzsaw Asks Why… Ithaca hasn’t started a BDSM club yet?”

    1. Alice

      Hi Rachel, just ran across your post and felt the need to leave a reply. Are you personally involved and familiar with the bdsm community? If you are and you wrote this, shame on you. If you’re not, here let me enlighten you….

      I agree with you, 50 Shades is absolutely horrible and the fad is ridiculous. I read them myself just to see what it was about….And yes, it was about shit. E.L. James wrote this without being familiar with the community whatsoever. She also based the book off of Twilight, so I’ll leave that to speak for itself. It’s a horrible misrepresentation.

      It’s important that people know that 50 shades isn’t what it’s about at all. They read the book and believe its definitive. Society was already fed the stereotype of bdsm equals leather and whips (porn= a huge no no and another way people are fed false info). Of course BDSM is only known for the most extreme, as it’s “OH SO SCANDALOUS AND DEVIANT!”. Because of this image and its association with the term, when people hear ‘BDSM’ they immediately put on their breaks and turn around. But, by doing this they have no chance to break through societies stupid wall of ignorance to learn more about it. Absolutely, there is leather and whips, leather, chains, and what not. But not everyone is doing that, it’s actually a small part of it.

      I wish I could explain it all to you shortly and simply, but it’s complex and even I am still learning because in BDSM you can never stop learning. People don’t understand that little things like blindfolds or using ice on the body WOULD FALL UNDER ONE OF THESE LETTERS. ….EVERYONE has a little BDSM in them. Someone may like to be controlling, and others may like to be told to do. And some people like to do both! And it’s so much more than sex too. Two people can be partners and not be doing anything sexual whatsoever. WHAT A GAME CHANGER. It’s about a relationship. The things that are important to your average boyfriend and girlfriend are the same crucial things for in a relationship between Dominant and Submissives. They need to be respectful, honest, nurturing, intelligent, responsible. Trust is incredibly important too. You need to trust someone enough to know they will follow your limits so you can give them the power to control youl. Everything is consensual. Controlling IS NOT manipulating when it’s a true bdsm relationship. If a person is not following their partners list of limits, they are not a Dom, but an abuser. No longer a sub, but a victim. It is no longer consensual then.

      A Dom cares for the sub so they challenge them and motivate them. They care that the sub is successful and healthy. A relatable concept could be the Dom telling the sub to go to the gym at least X hours per week, or making sure they X amount of studying for their upcoming test. A sub just wants to please their Dom, so they comply with their demands and also get a reward out of it. Discipline is done with nurture so that the sub still continues to grow. Another example: biting your nails, a habit a lot of us deal with and wish we didn’t. The Dom sees the sub doing it after the rule ‘no nail biting’, so there is discipline. Discipline could be something like sitting on your hands for an hour. Eventually, that sub is finally going to break the habit they’ve always wanted to. It’s a constant power exchange, mostly in the hands of the sub since it is them who needs to gain the trust to offer the Dom what they want: the power to help guide them. The dom satisfies the need of the sub and versa. Mutual reward. Bondage? It doesn’t need to be whips and chains. People like handcuffs or blindfolds, lets be real. Sadomasochism? Pretty sure a campus of college students either scratch their partners during sex, slap their asses, hair pulling WHATEVER. Pleasure and pain are in the same boat, so it’s not like this is a new and super scary idea.

      Why is sex so taboo? Everyone has desires, fantasies, needs to fill. And why should BDSM be looked down upon? It’s something that can totally change someones life for the better. It can be a role, it can be a game, but ultimately it’s a lifestyle. A lifestyle to a community that are VERY serious and VERY protective of it, especially when they have people blindly writing ridiculous books about it and are subjected to ridicule without people having full knowledge. So put together the rising popularity of this book and the Munches on campus? Its who they call the TNG (the next generation: the kinks 18-35) trying to protect the community so it doesn’t continue to be wrongly displayed to society.
      Munch’s have been a thing for a long time. They aren’t anything new and they go on everywhere. Not just at colleges, everywhere. Hell theres one in Ithaca every month already, FYI. It’s for people to go and engage and meet people who can relate to them and learn from. These people accept who they are instead of being ashamed of the deviant label society decides to put on it. That’s awesome.

      What the colleges aren’t opening up are “BDSM Clubs” and a “sex swing”. Thats what a ‘play party’ is for. Munches have people dress in normal ‘vanilla’ clothes. Not leather and whips! Surprised? They get together and socialize, eat food, learn about upcoming event, have speakers and discussions. The main goal is for people to understand what the lifestyle is properly and positively and for people to connect.

      Ithaca College is known for being open and diverse and that’s what makes this place so so so beautiful. We’re considered one of the most friendly schools for the LGBTQ community. We care that they feel safe, as they have every right to be. I’m happy about that, yet so sad once again. I see you have one of you profile pictures as the equality sign. So you believe in equality? So why reject the idea of allowing another type of community on campus? They offer classes on sex and we learned about fetish and bdsm.

      Thank you for posting this, you’ve been and inspiration. I believe an Ithaca Munch would be absolutely perfect here! We need munches on campuses. For the people who think they are different and are lost, struggling to keep who they are a secret all while feeling alone. For the people who cut their own flesh to feel pain because they need to feel something, anything else. They have yet to realize instead, they can have pain that results in pleasure and a person to responsibly share the experience. Also, for the people who are still stuck behind that wall of ignorance and poisoned by the ill work of Miss James. Maybe with mushes on campus, those people won’t be alone. They’ll find there some sort liberation. And maybe with more mushes on campus, we’re taking another step in tearing down the walls in a social construct that labels people who need or participate in this lifestyle as deviant.

      We are all unique and beautiful souls who may not all understand each other. But we MUST at least try to learn because that offers a chance to understand. But, if fail to understand, then we must accept each other.
      We need to coexist, Rachel.

      -An Ithaca College classmate, that too, believes in equality

      • Rachel

        Hi, Alice

        Thank you for your comment. I’m not sure if you are familiar with this publication, but this particular section of the magazine is satire.

        As such, this particular “Buzzsaw Asks Why” was a contribution to the Sex Issue published several months back. When I write this column, I use my sort of dry humor, which you have obviously misconstrued as my personal opinions.

        I wrote this column to not only go along with the Sex Issue, but to also poke fun at the collegiate administration. Sometimes, we as students feel as though the college cares more about how they appear to the outside world than their actual students. Many prestigious institutions have these kinds of clubs, like I stated in the article.

        I will not delve into my own personal sexual preferences, nor did I ask about anyone else’s. I was poking fun at the fact that this has gained momentum after a terribly written book rose to popularity.

        If you are offended by my sense of humor, I apologize. I did not write this satirical column to bash the BDSM community, or personally target a group of people.

        You can feel free to message me privately if you have an issue with the way I write and edit this section of the magazine. I am not here to argue over what constitutes as appropriate humor, as I am a firm believer that satire is one of the greatest outlets we have to question authority and poke fun at pressing issues. And this is precisely what I was attempting to do with this piece.

        Rachel Maus, Editor of Sawdust

    2. Alice

      I apologize as well! I was just came across this on google and was not familiar with buzzsaw. I was not aware it was satire, I am very sorry!

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